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True love? Pfft!

Whilst my manuscript is off with the readers for two weeks, I am taking a break from it. Mainly so as I can go over it with fresh eyes once I get it back, but also because during this time, I can go on and plan my next book.

I am a major planner, so it takes me quite some time to do all the research and characters, etc. Pretty much 24/7 for the full two weeks πŸ˜€ I do love planning though.

Anyway, whilst planning out my next book something struck me.

My next book is going to be vastly different to anything I’ve written yet. It’s going to be more of a contemporary, light-hearted read, kind of what I’d class as β€˜chick-lit’.

I chose it because I have a fun story idea for it, but also because I just want to be able to let loose and have fun with my next book. My others all have heavy plots and characters, where as I plan to make my next one something fun and easy to read over a relaxing weekend.

Whilst planning, I realised how incredibly different the types of romance are in different genres of books.

So far I have written paranormal, fantasy and historical, and for some reason I have had no qualms about the romance and relationship being one of true love. I don’t mean fall in love at first sight (which I am not a fan of writing), but that intense, emotional kind of true love that builds up and doesn’t break. But, when planning out my next book, which is set in our modern, real world, I suddenly bulked at the idea of the romance being true love.

I realised it’s because for many true love doesn’t exist, so writing about it in a book set in the real world felt… fake? You can get away with it fantasy or paranormal, but in something with a sense of reality about it? Not so much.

And it really annoyed me πŸ˜€ That I was stopping myself from writing about a true love romance in a book set in the modern, real world because of this doubt about it in the real world.

I read romance to escape to a place where true love does exist, where characters find each other and fall in love against all odds, no matter what setting or genre that may be.

So why am I so hesitant to write about it? It’s just a story, after all.

Maybe it’s because in reality, relationships are hard, where as true love is meant to be easy? True love gives a sense that people are meant to be together no matter what, where as in life things just don’t work out that way. Writing a book set in the real world comes with the horrible reality that true love might not exist, so readers might be put off by a relationship written in such a way.

But, I am trying to push past my hesitancy.


Because I like true love, because I want to believe in true love even in today’s world, and there must be others out there who want to lose themselves in a story for the same reasons I do.

Yes, I am tailoring the romance to suit the genre, and I probably won’t even mention the words, β€˜true love’ in the book, but still, I think any type of love that builds from an deep emotional connection is a true love no matter which genre it is.

What do you think about the different types of romances in different genres? How do you feel about true love in books? Have you written a true love romance?

Also, my blogger friend, Shannon A. Thompson, asked me to guest post on her blog, why not check it out?- Spreading the Love πŸ™‚

Progress Report:

Status of Fourth Manuscript: With the readers. (1/3 returned).

Books read: 1/4

July eBook review: Written and ready.

43 thoughts on “True love? Pfft!

    • I tend to get rather passionate over things I believe in, something I need to work on πŸ˜€

      I od love books about true love though, and I hope that it can translate to a modern, real world setting. Especially one that is light-hearted and fun, just another challenge to overcome as a writer!

      Thank you for reading and commenting πŸ™‚

  1. It’s funny that a real world setting is often the most restrictive in terms of plot. Trust your instincts and tell the story you’re passionate about; that’s what I say πŸ™‚

    • Great advice! One of the things I told myself when I started writing was that I would write what I wanted, and not worry about ‘rules’ or opinions.

      So I was annoyed that I was putting restrictions on myself when it came to this πŸ˜€ Now I am going full steam ahead with the planning.

      Thank you for your motivating comment! πŸ™‚

  2. Glad to see your books have taken up residence on your blog. Now, when I get ready to add them, I just click and I’m there. I have a long list I am slowing thinning.

  3. Your book sounds really interesting. Whether we call it true love or not, we’re all seeking some intense loving relationship with a special someone. Good luck with all your books. πŸ™‚

      • It’s my first novel, and it’s in print and e-book (see my blog for details). It’s hardly a light read, though, at almost 200K words, but at 1 lb 12 oz on paper, it can help anchor a picnic rug or a beach blanket against a stiff breeze.

    • I think when writing romance it is important to look at how readers and the writer themselves looks at love. certainly Can certainly make for some interesting twists and turns in plotting πŸ˜€

      Thank you for reading and commenting πŸ™‚

  4. I think true love does and can exist in the real world. The downside that not everyone finds it. I think that is the big difference. Love is hard, trying, and difficult at times, but it is also blissful, true, warm, and fulfilling.

    • Love is going through the hard stuff to be rewarded with the good stuff, which in the end must be worth it as most everyone strives to find it, right? πŸ˜€

      Thank you for reading and commenting πŸ™‚

  5. Hi Harliqueen, interesting post, and what one person thinks is true love, another person would scoff at. If you write with passion, and your readers love it, that’s all that matters I think. I do believe in true love, but in my story, my heroine can’t decide who she wants to be with, so not sure what that says?????

  6. I’m a strong believer in true love, even love at first sight. But that doesn’t mean the work stops in the relationship or that there still aren’t obstacles to overcome. It means (to me) those in the relationship work harder BECAUSE of that love.

    Regardless of the genre I’m reading, including contemporary, if there is romance involved, I want an HEA at the end. That might not be reality for everyone, but when I’m reading for enjoyment I’m not really worried about that.

    As you start writing, your characters may even pave the way for the outcome. They often do have a mind of their own πŸ™‚

    • I love a HEA, and when I pick up a romance I can almost guarantee I’m going to get one, so that’s why it’s one of my fave genres πŸ˜€

      Thank you so much for reading and commenting πŸ™‚

  7. I thin Callum pretty much hit the nail on the head with his comment. Also, I happen to think the opposite of what you do – I think true love is all the hard stuff, all the stuff you have to work at, the trudging through the ugly with someone else and both of y’all knowing y’all’ll come out the other side better and stronger and then goin’ through even more…

    To me, it’s the fake ones – the “love” that people only think is love without ever really even knowing what love is – that gives “true” love a bad rap. There shouldn’t be such a thing as true love because fake love isn’t love at all – it’s just not love.

    That’s just how I feel, though…

    (One more thing? I totally had this layout last. It was good to me for a very long time, as I’m sure it will be good to you. :D)

    • What a great perspective! And has given me something to think about for future books πŸ˜€ Love is hard, but it’s the ones that go through it and come out the stronger for it that are the ones truly able to say they’re in love!

      I do like the layout, not as colourful as my last one unfortunately, but still easy to navigate and things!

      Thank you for reading and commenting πŸ™‚

  8. Well, I’m falling into true love with your new blog design. Guess it truly does exist!

    True love, at least on it’s own, isn’t that great from a writing standpoint. Plots need good conflict of some sort, and true love in stories is generally of the type where it either happens without the challenge or all the fires are behind them. That’s why most romance plots are about falling in love, or dealing with a love that’s been strained, or something of the sort. When there’s some sort of challenge to love, then it makes a good story.

    • But you can add so much conflict to true love, and offer a variety of interesting obstacles to stop the couple from getting together. That’s why I enjoy πŸ˜€

      Thank you for reading and commenting : Glad you like the new design, I thought it looked rather snazzy!

  9. Great post! I haven’t really written about true love in my stories yet, but maybe in a future story. I imagine it would be sort of a challenge because you have to develop their relationship. However the last few books I have read dealt with true love, so I guess I’m a fan πŸ™‚

    • I do like true love, there is something a little more magical about it, and the idea that there is a plan in the world to join two people together makes me smile πŸ˜€ But I like true love stories when the relationship is built up and at the end it is obvious that they were meant to be!

      Thank you for reading and commenting πŸ™‚

  10. All of my stories have to have some true romantic love. I always make it very difficult for the couples but I WANT them to work out. I’m having trouble with one couple that probably won’t work out and I feel very sad about it, but at some point realized they weren’t meant to be. πŸ™‚

    My daughter and I were talking recently about a guy she’s seeing who really is a sweetheart and we realized we were having trouble believing he could be that way. Maybe we all have trust issues in this hookup society.

    • It is sad when you have characters who you are rooting for but you know it’s not going to work out! πŸ˜€ But then half the fun of being a writer is seeing where the characters lead you.

      It is hard in today’s society when everything is so fast and not meant to last :/

      Thank you for reading and commenting πŸ™‚

  11. I find it interesting your reluctance to write the expected love story. It’s true that one partner for life hardly fits anymore; this gives you scope for developing many characters….Have fun with it!

  12. I tend to shy away from writing relationships into any novels I’ve written. I’m not entirely sure why. I can only think of one fleshed out relationship I’ve written about, but that ended in a characters death.

    I used to read a lot of thrillers, but I’ve gone off them of late due to the romance plots that feel like they’re shoehorned in. It’s annoying as the kind of love they’re feeling (to me) isn’t real because it’s created due to adrenaline rushes and feelings of fear. They’re usually couples who seem like they’d have a dysfunctional relationship in the real world, but because they’re lives are in danger things are just peachy. I always imagine that in a few weeks, once they’re safe and everything dies down they end up being super, super awkward with each other because they realise they know nothing about one another.
    “So…uhhh…yeah, I have to um…go away..for uhhh work.”
    “Yeah, that’s cool. I guess I’ll see you…sometime?”
    “Yeah, yeah, no definitely. I’ll call you when I’m done ok?”
    “Cool. Well…um..bye…”
    Que awkward hug.

    A lot of the time it feels like a very formulaic plot that’s shoved in. I much prefer when it’s organic, has a bit of a slow build, or it starts with the characters being a couple.

    • A very good point and that dialogue made me chuckle πŸ˜€

      I have seen a few comments lately about thrillers and, well, a lot of genres, where romance is being pushed into a plot that doesn’t need it.

      Obviously I write romance, so a relationship of some kind is generally needed πŸ˜€ But I don’t see the need to add it into a story where it is obvious it is an afterthought.

      I do prefer when a relationship builds up between characters in a slow way, certainly makes it seem like they are more likely to stay together after everything is done!

      Thank you for your comment, it’s great to get some insight from another perspective πŸ™‚

  13. I believe true love exists in the modern world, and I also believe people respond to reading about it because finding love is hard (romantically speaking). Fiction always has a fantasy element, a kind of ‘best case scenario’, no matter how small. So, yes your characters will have it tough, but their love will shine through and we want to hear about it! πŸ™‚

    • What a great response! You’re totally right, love is hard to find sometimes, especially in today’s fast-paced world. So reading about it kind of helps keep us motivated to keep trying to find it πŸ™‚

      Thank you for reading and commenting, really loved your answer!

      • You’re welcome, it was a great post πŸ™‚ I think people not only respond to the realism element, they also recognise that finding love is precious and thoroughly enjoy reading about it. We’re all looking for that special connection and even the most cynical person can be touched by a great story πŸ˜‰ Just do your thing and make us all believe in the impossible!

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